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Ghanam Ranga

July 10, 2008

“Though she is ghanam ranga (has wheatish complexion) but I liked her; she is in the second year of medical college.” She told me proudly.


“Are you looking for doctor girls?” My eyes widened.


“Sweetie says mommy we too should get D married to a doctor.”


“I see!” I murmured.



This is the story of two women; married to two real brothers and are wall to wall neighbors. But they aren’t on talking terms from the last fifteen odd years. The thing doesn’t end here. Though they don’t communicate at all yet they are fully aware of the happening in each other’s homes. Ever since Mrs. R’s son got married, Mrs. W has become restless; dreaming of her elder son’s wedding (who is just 22 or maybe 23). Mrs. R’s son is a doctor. I believe he is or soon turns out to be a quack. I mean do you really think you can study medicine on self finance especially when you have no brains, talent and aptitude. And when you were caught in an unfair means in FS.c but we should keep in mind that money can do wonders in such cases in the land of pure.



So he got married to his class fellow. A doctor! That has stolen Mrs. W’s sleep. These days she doesn’t part from her rosary for a minute and chant fervently on every bead, “I need a d-d- in law”.


Darn! Not doctorate in law but doctor daughter in law.



The other day she was telling me with pride and enthusiasm about that ghanam ranga. I said with equal enthusiasm, “Don’t waste time in asking her hand if you really liked her.”

Her smile vanished. The color of her skin changed, “Your lala says he’s too young to be married. Let him complete his education.”


“He’s right I think. Besides if you want a doctor girl, her parents would ask what the guy does.”



She went silent. Perhaps she too knows quite well that life is all about clicking on the right options. Even if she asks her hand, “no” is what she might hear because the girl’s parents would like to get their daughter married to a doctor. It’s the mindset here doctor for a doctor.



It’s like a vast bazaar out there where doctors carry the highest price tag. Everyone is in search of one at any given time. Even if they know they can’t pull off a deal; they’ll try. Just as everyone tries his luck at least once in life for winning the huge cash amount whether through gambling or lottery.



Mrs. W too lives in that hope as she hasn’t spun her fishing line yet.  In fact the game has just begun!

11 Comments leave one →
  1. July 11, 2008 8:54 am

    I read this on CHOWK where I put up ABUSED today – a new diary.

    As I commented on chowk – Its SO REAL – Comparison in neighbourhood is normal I suppose.

  2. Ayesha permalink
    July 11, 2008 10:16 am

    Well it’s common not normal. I think it’s abnormal and they happen to be estranged sister in laws so you can imgine the rest 😛

    And this docotor thingy is rampant in our society.

  3. July 11, 2008 10:43 am

    Well. In our society I don’t know why we comapre ourselves with our neighbours and relatives especialy in personal matters? I think this trend should be dicourage. Isn’t it?

  4. Ayesha permalink
    July 11, 2008 10:56 am

    There is no end to it. It should certainly be discouraged. Healthy competition is good but not that what I mentioned.

  5. Hawk permalink
    July 11, 2008 5:31 pm

    Two brothers getting married to two sisters creates such a complex relationship nest that you cannot ever resolve…. given the level of curiosity, comparison, peeking and poking it gets total non-sense and negative, after all you can’t expect all of the four to have a high intellect.

  6. Ayesha permalink
    July 11, 2008 9:13 pm

    Two brothers got married to two women who were not related. But still it’s a non sense if the women are uncouth type and keep on competing with each other constantly.

  7. Hawk permalink
    July 12, 2008 6:45 am

    but Ayesha two unrelated women can be separated, but if they are sisters it is not possible as their own parent’s family can’t be ruled out from the picture.

    Having an independent thought process so is much necessary to understand life and cascading issues.

  8. July 12, 2008 6:52 am

    I want to add something to the discussion – related to the story –

    I think being inspired by a friend or a person you like and respect, to the extent of taking something from their lifestyle and adding it to your own is a good thing – Its a sharing of ideas – but copying someone to be mean and to show them that you are as good at them – and try to be one up on them is not a good thing at all – Thats just nasty competition to be the better of the two!

  9. Ayesha permalink
    July 12, 2008 7:34 am

    I agree!

  10. Ordinary girl permalink
    July 15, 2008 12:25 am

    First getting a doctor bahu and then asking her to stay at home, after all she has fulfilled her duty of bettering their social standing!!

    This getting-a-doctor-bahu mentality is so sick! Absolutely illogical!

  11. Ayesha permalink
    July 15, 2008 7:46 am

    Well doctor bahu sounds glamorous as well as money minting machine 😛

    I agree it is sick

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